How to Support the Women in Your Life

Being a woman is hard work. We live busy lives and are expected to have multiple responsibilities. We are always on the go, trying to do more to satisfy the people around us. The expectations placed upon on us by our kids, families and society can be greatly consuming. Our world is not always the most empathetic place towards people who want to slow down, take a break or recharge.

Here are 4 ways to support women and lift each other up:

1. Set realistic expectations:

   Having expectations that are realistic can help encourage everyone to do the best they can without creating unwanted pressure. The pressure we feel as women to navigate both home and work life is already daunting. Having boundary that gives us space to navigate home life and work life at different times of the day, can help create a better balance and let us take a moment to focus on one task at a time. This can in turn make us more productive and reduce stress.

2. Ask them if they need help:

   It is okay to see your mom or wife and ask them if they need help. It is also okay for a woman to say yes to accepting help. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own needs and self worth that we forget we can pause and ask for help. Asking for help is a sign of self awareness and it means you are more in tune with your needs.

3. Ask them how they are feeling:

   On the same note, it is okay to ask a woman how they feel. Sometimes giving us space to talk about how we actually feel can help ground us and reconnect us to what is actually important. When we get caught up in the everyday go, go, go of life we forget to pause and enjoy the life we have created and the people around us.

4. Remind them to take a break:

   Tell the women in your life the importance of resting, reseting and relaxing. We are told that our society only values the constant worker and the one who does the most. The opposite is actually needed at times. the more we learn that everything we have is in the right here and right now, the more fortunate we can actually see that we are. We do not need anything more, we have it all and now can take a moment to rest.

Women are at times undervalued and this can present setbacks for many of us. We are the doers, the go getters, the soccer moms and caretakers. Women are known to neglect themselves. By realizing that taking time to rest and support each other can actually be healthy and healing, we can become the best version of ourselves.

Do you want more support from women like you? Come join our Women’s Group, every last Friday of the month from 6 pm to 7:30 pm.

4 Ways to Teach Kids Healthy Boundaries

Teaching children boundaries creates a foundation of understanding limits within healthy relationships. By instilling boundaries from a young age with your child, they will learn and build skills to not only respect the boundaries of others but create their own.

Children actually crave boundaries and structure- these foundations help them feel safe and secure.

1) Setting an expectation

When teaching your child about boundaries, set an expectation around the boundary you have in mind. Boundaries and limits can be social, physical, and emotional. Are you wanting to teach your child to refrain from using disrespectful lor vulgar language? Instill that hitting siblings is not tolerated in your home? TV time is limited to 30 minutes a day?

Set an expectation around what boundaries you would like to instill. Try to help your child understand that the boundaries you create are ones that you have decided are appropriate for you. This helps to teach them autonomy and may encourage them to think about what boundaries or limits they may have. Explain to your child what the boundary is and why you have decided it needs to be instilled from your behalf.

2) Instilling a boundary- and sticking to it

Often times, we want to cut our kiddos some slack if boundaries are crossed. We may think that we are being “cool” or even just understanding; but if you let the line be crossed once, it will be crossed again. When setting your expectation, be very clear about how you will stick to the boundaries that you create.

3) Leading and teaching by example

Be open and honest about the personal boundaries you have set in your life for other family and friends. For example, you can explain to your child, “I do not allow people to speak to me in a disrespectful manner. I hope you do not allow that either”. When observing and noticing what boundaries you set in place, this helps a child create a sense of what is acceptable in social situations. Not only are you teaching them how to respect others by instilling boundaries, you are also teaching them how to respect themselves.

4) Instilling consequences that if boundaries are crossed

When discussing the boundaries you would like to instill, explain to your child what the subsequent consequences would be if the boundary is crossed. For example; if your personal boundary is that you do not allow hitting in your household, explain to your child while setting the boundary what the consequence would be so there are no surprises if they were to engage in crossing that boundary. If the event occurs where your child hits you or a sibling, you can revisit the conversation of instilling the boundary, expectation, and consequences; and explain why the consequence will be followed through with. This also ties back to adhering to the boundaries you set in place.

Be sure that the consequence is related to the offense. In this example, if your child hits you or another child in the home, then a consequence would be that they are not allowed to play or be around the person they hit until they can keep their bodies safe. Traditional consequences like taking away toys or electronics seldom work in these situations because the consequences are not related to the offense. You will often see the offense repeated if you take this discipline route.

Instilling boundaries isn’t always easy, but you got this!

Do you feel that therapy would benefit your child? Do you need some more guidance in parenting your child with boundaries? This is a specialty at Serene Mind. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists is a good fit for you and/or your child.

3 Ways to Build Connections with Your Teen

Teens are a unique group of people and they wanted to be treated as such. It can be difficult to connect with your children once they reach adolescence. They naturally crave more independence and want to find an identity outside of their parents; with that, teens are feeling bigger emotions that can cause them to be more distant, agitated, or isolated. All of this is normal but finding reconnection with them through one of the most developmental times in their life can be pivotal in their development as a person. Ideally, we want our children to come to us with any questions, concerns, or thoughts they can’t fully understand on their own and be a safe space for them.

Here are some ways you can help reconnect and build a better relationship with your teens:

1.Open Up About Yourself

Your teen wants to know about you. How much did you really know about your parents as a teen? How much of that information did you get from them or was it from family members and their friends? It can be a very connecting experience to talk to your kids about who you are outside of “mom” or “dad”. Talk about experiences from high school, college, and early adulthood; things they can relate to or might be going through currently. Once we can humanize ourselves to our children and see each other as real people and not just an authority figure over them, you can connect on a deeper level.

2. Find a hobby you both like

Bonding over a like interest is a great way to encourage communication and connection. Whether it is something you both choose or something they already like that you might too, finding hobbies is a great way to connect with anyone in your life. Though teens might act like they are disinterested by everything, they’re not. It’s just a matter of finding the right activity they enjoy and are willing to do with you. Having a hobby, you do with them even just once a month can be a great time to connect and build trust in one another.

3. Knowing How to Handle Our Emotions

We model our behavior to our teens and they learn from us. Inevitably, teens will mess up; how we handle those mess ups can be detrimental in how teens will manage them later. Are we meeting them with shame and hostility? Or are we meeting them with empathy and compassion? If your emotions are always all over the place and anger is your first response to mess ups, it probably won’t be anything new for your teen. Screaming and yelling likely won’t get the desired effects we are looking for but only make teens retreat and hide things later.

Emotional dysregulation often comes from a place of anxiety. If we can get our general daily anxieties under control through things like selfcare, therapy, or medication, if necessary, we can manage our life stressors with better coping skills and compassion. This will all help how we react to our teens mess ups and impact when and how the tell us they messed up or are thinking of doing something you might disapprove of.

It is a process to rebuild connection with teens and these things do not happen overnight. Don’t be discouraged if they aren’t receptive at first, just keep trying! It will become easier over time. Connections and meaningful relationships take months to develop and consistency is key.

Do you or your teen struggle to connect with each other? Have you thought about teen counseling, counseling for yourself or family therapy? We can help in all these therapy realms. Our therapists would love to support you.

Our Therapists Share 6 Social Skills for a Healthier You

Humans are social beings. We seek connection, unity and inclusiveness. As we grow older it becomes more difficult to connect with others. We become more selective, stricter with social guidelines of whom we could befriend. Socializing can feel like hard work for many of us. What if there was a way that could help us socialize more openly, with confidence and positivity?

Here are 6 ways to help you regain connections and better socialize with others:

1. Be open minded:

   Realize that having an open mind is a key to making new lasting relationships. Going into a new place, event or social setting as if you are ready to make friends and listen to others. This mindset will help you attract the people you want to create new relationships with.

2. Love yourself:

   By loving and knowing who you are you can be more confident. Go into an event knowing what you bring to your relationships and portray this. This confidence can help others be more attracted to your energy, which will also make you appear to be more socially available.

3. Practice what you want to say:

   By rehearsing and reciting how to introduce yourself, you can make yourself less nervous about the event. Having a couple of funny lines or stories is a great way to meet people. We tend to gravitate to stories about dogs, pets, babies and common interests. Come up with a way to gain potential connections by having a couple of lines that you want to say.

4. Find people with common interests

   People like you, want to be friends with you. The key here is you have find them. Having similar interests makes us automatically more likely to connect and be more able to socialize with each other. When we have similarities a group or bond can naturally grow.

5. Know your non-negotiables:

   We all have those pet peeves or values that are deal breakers in any relationship. Go into a socially setting knowing what your non-negotiable are. For some people it is telling the truth, for others it is a specific sense of humor, or possibly even an affinity for dogs. Know what your deal breakers are in a relationship and if you hear them when you are getting to know someone, realize this may be ultimately what breaks the relationship.

6. Go out and practice:

   Try, try and try again. The more you expose yourself to social settings and new people, the more practice you will have in socializing. This will make you better equipped to meet others and help you lower any social anxiety. Take baby steps and slowly but surely put yourself out there. You can do this!

Socializing in this post pandemic era is a struggle. Humana want to feel as a part of a community and culturally some of us seek this more often as well. People have become very used to isolation and are not even aware of how our social skills may have regressed. It is important to be empathetic with yourself, and help yourself get back out there again. Trying to connect, gaining more confidence in your social abilities and finding a great group of friends are all things you can accomplish.

Have you heard about our Serene Mind Social Skills Groups? Coming this fall we will have a social skills group for kids, teens and young adults. Each group will be geared to a different age group. We hope you come socialize with us!

How Can Love Languages Improve Your Relationship?

We all have love languages that make us feel cared for, respected, and admired. We may have different ones than our partners, or perhaps even the same!

Decoding what the 5 love languages are and how they can be implemented within a relationship can boost your relationship to a whole new level. When understanding how you and your partner interpret love and appreciation, you can try to exercise their preferred love language to help them feel seen, heard, and well, - loved! When practiced frequently, asserting your knowledge of your partner’s love language can deepen your connection and enrich your relationship is several ways. Many expressions of love and intimacy can be considered several love languages in one act or event, which gives you bonus points!

Our therapists weighed in on how to communicate to your partner your love for them using the 5 love languages system.

What are the 5 Love languages?

Physical Touch

There are many ways to express love and admiration through physical touch, such as:

 Hugs

 Kisses

 High-fives

 Arms around shoulders/back/waist

 Holding hands

 Cuddling

 Sexual intimacy

 Physical closeness and touching

Words of Affirmation

Words of affirmation are comments, phrases, and questions that validate, affirm, and acknowledge qualities and characteristics of your partner that are positive. Words of affirmation don’t have to just be physical; they can be comments based on personality, performance, situational topics, and even day-to-day tasks. Some examples can include:

How understanding love languages can improve your relationship

 “Your passion for your work inspires me”

 “You look beautiful in that dress today”

 “It must have taken so much bravery to stand up to your boss. You did a

great job handling that situation”

 “I am proud of what an amazing partner you are”

 “I notice how attentive you are to our children and that means a lot to me”

 “I am so thankful to have you in my life”

 “You really have a knack for decorating. Because of you, our house feels like a home”

 “You always have the best ideas.”

 “You make me want to be a better person”

Acts of Service

Doing a favor, completing a task, helping with a chore or errand- all of these falls under the umbrella of acts of service. Some examples include:

 Completing a task of chore, you don’t particularly enjoy like dishes or laundry

 Planning a surprise birthday party for your partner

 Helping your partner find

 Ironing your partner’s work clothes for the next day or packing their lunch

 Rubbing your partner’s feet (also could be considered quality time or physical touch)

Quality Time

Quality time can look different for many couples. You don’t have to be looking at each other the entire time for it to be considered quality time. Connecting through a shared activity and conversation can ignite intimacy within your relationship. Some examples include:

 Watching a show together

 Taking a new class together

 Playing a game

 Taking a walk

 Going on a trip

How understanding love languages can improve your relationship

 Cuddling

 Cooking dinner

 Having a conversation

Gifts

Birthdays and holidays aren’t the only time you can express love in your relationship. There are so many opportunities for you to be able to shower your loved one with gifts in meaningful ways throughout the year. Gifts don’t have to be grand or expensive, in fact, studies show that small gifts with deep meaning tend to be more attractive to individuals who prefer gifts as their main love language. Some examples of gift giving include:

 Picking up your partner’s favorite flowers on a whim

 Buying a piece of jewelry your partner has had their eyes on for their birthday

 Seeing your partner’s favorite shoes on sale and snagging them

 Buying your partner lunch

Do you feel that couples counseling could benefit your relationship? Do you want to learn more about the 5 Love languages? Do you Do you need extra support in helping your relationship flourish and grow? Couple’s counseling is a specialty at Serene Mind. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists is a good fit for you and your partner.

Our Couples Therapists Share the Benefits of Couples Counseling

Relationships ebb and flow. Sometimes it helps to get some extra support and insight into your relationship and the challenges a couple encounters on their path together. It is normal and natural to hit roadblocks as a couple. Embarking on a journey of couple’s counseling can be beneficial in so many ways. Couple’s counseling is a supportive and structured therapeutic modality designed to aid couples in navigating the ups and downs every couple faces.

Our therapists believe that these are some of the benefits of couple’s work:

What are the benefits of couple’s counseling?

1) An impartial professional to hold you accountable.

When working with a professional couple’s counselor or therapist, you therapist will provide a safe space for each partner and hold each individual accountable in a supportive, caring, and compassionate way. Your therapist will help you create goals as a couple, identify barriers that you are facing in the relationship, and maintain an unbiased stance on the concerns and issues brought up within sessions. It is imperative that the facilitator of couple’s counseling is unbiased and does not have outside relationships with either person of the relationship they are helping to counsel, to ensure that no one feels that sides are being taken when challenges are brought up within sessions. It is very important that both parts of the couple feel secure with their therapist or counselor and have trust in them.

2) Improve communication skills

A couple’s counselor can help you learn about different. communication styles, how to respond to your partner in a way that supports their communication style, and how to communicate with them in a productive way. Communication is key in relationships- effective communication is paramount in fostering safe, healthy, and loving relationships. Your therapist can provide you with tools and resources to strengthen your communication dynamic within your relationship, as well as your individual communication style. This educational and reflective piece of the work you will do in couple’s counseling will be fruitful in the therapy room as well as your day-to-day interactions with your partner, and in all relationships.

3) Gain a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamic

In couples counseling, you will learn about the different love languages, attachment styles, and how to differentiate empathy versus sympathy. Learning about these important aspects of relationships can help you identify potential challenges or barriers within the foundation of your relationship, as well as how to strengthen it. Couple’s therapists use different therapeutic modalities in each session to help uncover the inner workings of the relationship. Depending on the couple’s style, preferences, and concerns brought to sessions, couple’s counselors are highly skilled in curating a plan that is cohesive, effective, and efficient to help the couple understand their contributions to the relationship, whether those inputs are helpful or hurtful to the relationship.

Do you feel that couples counseling could benefit your relationship? Do you Do you need extra support in helping your relationship flourish and grow? Couple’s counseling is a specialty at Serene Mind. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists is a good fit for you and your partner.

3 Ways to Bounce Back From Difficult Times

As humans, we experience many ups and downs while we walk the path of life. Sometimes, certain experiences can knock us into uncomfortable places and it can be a challenge to pick ourselves back up and move forward. Sometimes we don’t even know where to begin when we want to kickstart into a new journey or stage in our lives.

Here are some tips from our therapists to help bounce back from difficult times:

Give yourself grace, respect, and love

Take your time to process the situation before taking action. Avoid making hasty decisions and forcing yourself to move forward if you are not ready. Treat yourself as you would treat a loved one who is recovering from being knocked down or is going through a challenging chapter in life. Participate in self-care practices that feel resonate to you. Some options can include:

 Cooking or purchasing your favorite meal

 Participating in your favorite hobby

 Listening to music

 Unplugging- turning off your phone and other electronics for the day

 Exercise

 Spending time with loved ones

 Watching your favorite movies

 Gardening

 Taking a walk in nature

Reflect

Think about and reflect on the situation at hand. What do you have control of? What do you not have control of? What can you change in this situation? Asking yourself these questions can help you organize your thoughts and feelings to be able to accept the circumstances you may be in to be able to move forward. If it resonates with you, journal these questions- you may be surprised what the answers are.

Ask for Help

Don’t feel afraid to reach out to friends, family, or mental health professionals if you feel you need additional support when navigating tough times. Talk through your thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Ask for and accept help if needed. Use your support system to bolster you up and work as a team to get over the hill you’re climbing when bouncing back from a hard event or process in life.

We have several therapists at Serene Mind who can help you process through recalibrating after experiencing times of difficulty. If you feel you need support, please feel free to reach out to us at hello@serenemindpysch.com, or call us at 813.321.8280. We are here to help you while you continue on your path of life!

5 Easy Ways to Manage Stress

Stress is an inevitable part of each and every one of our lives. Stress can be healthy or unhealthy depending on the amount, the duration of the stressor, and the frequency of the stress. Stress can help us grow in difficult times and help us learn how to problem solve, but with too much we can dwindle into unhealthy behaviors or even illness.

Our therapists give their 5 favorite ways to manage their everyday stressors to maintain a balance of mental clarity and challenge.

1) Unplug

When stress is present, added stimuli can impact you to a further degree. Smart phones now have “do not disturb” options to help block the distraction of incoming calls, texts, or emails. Skip a night of watching Netflix and pick up that book you’ve been meaning to read the last few months. Our minds are constantly stimulated by the lights and colors that screens emit and in times of stress, the packs on more information to our brains to process, therefore creating more stress in the mind and even body. Our therapists encourage to take a screen free day once a month to reset your nervous system.

2) Move

Exercise is key to shaking off stress on a day-to-day basis. You don’t have to hit the gym for an hour to get some stress relief- set a timer for 10 minutes and stretch. Take a walk with your dog after dinner instead of letting them play in your fenced yard while you scroll on TikTok. Tackle that yard work you’ve been putting off. There are so many ways to be creative with movement that feels resonate to you and fruitful to you.

3) Nourish

Skip the DoorDash and head to the nearest grocery store to stock up on healthy and wholesome ingredients to prepare a few meals that are simple and nourishing. Your body can battle stress with effective energy from the fuel you feed it! Carve out the time to shop for ingredients that are supportive to your physical body and energy. This can be something fun to do with your family of partner, shop altogether for the ingredients and cook a meal at home as a team. (Your wallet will thank you too!). Bonus points if you use a cookbook for your recipe and not your phone or laptop!

4) Schedule breaks

It is easy to pack as much as we can into the day to feel productive and get things done. This builds our stress levels and can lead to mental burnout and exhaustion. Schedule several small breaks through your day to rest, snack, maybe even read a magazine. One of our therapist’s favorite break time activities is breath work. This gives your mind a break from the constant “go go go” and reconnects you with how you are feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally.

5) Reevaluate time management

When you are feeling overwhelmed and overstressed, take some time to reevaluate your time management. Set timers, make a to-do list, prioritize urgent tasks, and let the little ones go for now. Break out that hard copy calendar. Use this time to get organized! An organized environment helps to foster an organized mind. When your time is managed and you can create a schedule that feels balanced, your mental load will start to shift into more of a peaceful place, leaving you feeling calmer and less scattered.

If you feel you’ve fallen into a sea of stress, you CAN make your way out of that cycle with time and support. Do you feel stuck and need some extra help? We are here to help. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists can aid you in your healing journey.

Prioritize Your Mental Health: Do Not Ignore These Signs of Burn Out

Many of us have felt the heaviness of responsibility. Some of us have felt the stress of obligation. Staying up late to finish left over work or to meet a deadline? Checking work emails and accepting calls or texts while off the clock? Agreeing to do more work to cover for a coworker?

Are the projects piling up?

When these types of scenarios pop up, it is easy to think “just this once”, or “I’ll make sure this won’t happen again”. Over time, the weight of these emotions and dynamics can lead to burnout. In a culture filled with constant stimulation, over drive, and expectations, burn out has become increasingly common.

With mindful self-care and boundaries, we can prevent burnout.

What are some signs of burnout?

1) Lack of Motivation-Avoiding and ignoring tasks, difficulty to instill effort

2) Feelings of Defeat and Hopelessness-Feeling like you can’t complete tasks or even show up

3) Performance and productivity decline-Making mistakes, taking constant breaks

4) Change in emotional demeanor-Feeling sad, anxious, angry, or frustrated

5) Concentration challenges-Feeling easily distracted

6) Detachment- Not feeling invested in or caring about the work you do

If you feel you are struggling with burnout, here are some important self-reflection questions to ask yourself:

1) Why do I feel the need or obligation to take on extra work?

2) What are the ramifications of a decline of performance and productivity on my part?

3) What is my body telling me about how I am feeling emotionally with my circumstances?

Take some time to understand and reflect on your situation and ask for additional supports if you need it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!

How can I heal from burnout?

Recovering from a period of burnout takes time. Instilling effort to recover can often be extremely challenging when you are burnt out and running on an empty tank. Sometimes the best action to take when experiencing burn out is to leave the environment in order to heal, but sometimes you can remain in the same place with a shift of boundaries and expectations.

Here are some simple tips you can add into your day little by little to aid in recovering from burn out:

 Take a break or vacation (if feasible)

 Try to slowly add in some sprinkles of extra self-care throughout your day

 Carve out some time in nature for a walk or quiet time

 Unplug consistently

 Eat away from your desk

 Don’t check emails/turn off your phone after business hours

 Eat nourishing meals & stay hydrated

 Connect with friends, family, or a mental health professional to process your feelings

If you feel you’ve fallen into a pit of burnout, you CAN make your way out of that cycle with time and support. Do you feel stuck and need some extra help? We are here to help. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists can aid you in your healing journey.

Our Counselors Confirm, 3 Ways to Navigate Pressures Placed on Teens

Teens have great expectations placed on them these days- getting good grades, maintaining a social life, contributing to the family household- the list goes on and on. The expectations and pressures placed upon teens in our modern day and age can be stressful, overstimulating, and sometimes even debilitating. Learning to balance and juggle all the responsibilities in adolescents can be a challenge.

Here are some tips from our therapists to help you alleviate the stressors of pressure and expectations teens experience:

Prioritize Downtime and Take Time to Rest

Team sports, school clubs, social events- all these activities add up. Give yourself the time and space to get bored. Although it is important to be socially connected and physically active, it is equally important to rest.

Our culture is centric around the “hustle”, constantly moving, evolving, creating, and conversing. Prioritizing time to rest and integrate can help you focus better and become more present when you are engaged in enrichment activities and social settings. Avoid making down time a space to check your social media. Try to engage in gentle activities like reading, watching a movie, taking a nap! Find something that works for you and helps to fill your cup to the brim. It is not lazy to rest and rejuvenate- give yourself the grace and courtesy to honor self-care.

Unplug from Social Media and Technology

Teens today are constantly connected through text, social media, emails, and so many countless apps that keep them up to date. Create blocks of time to unplug and exist in the present moment. Most smart phones have “Do Not Disturb” functions where you can even eliminate the distraction of notifications coming through. You can track your screen time within your settings app as well. Becoming aware of your screen time usage can be a wake-up call to how connected you are to your phone but disconnected to your waking life.

Schedule Blocks for Creative Time

Creativity can look different for every person. Give yourself an opportunity to get in tune with and embrace your creativity. Finding this through tangible art, playing music, participating in yoga, or even organizing your closet drawer can ignite creativity. Think of activities that feel resonate to you that can connect your mind and body. Maybe try something new! Scheduling a block of time to give yourself space to spark creativity can increase your problem-solving skills, create a calming outlet, and foster confidence.

Is your teen overstimulated? Do they need extra support in navigating the stress of pressure and expectations? We offer teen counseling and rolling groups for teens that focus on many areas of life during the teenage years. Wanting to deepen the connection between you and your teen? We also offer family therapy. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or call us at 813.321.8280 for more info.

Check out our upcoming teen social skills group starting this summer here: https://www.serenemindpsych.com/teen-social-skills-group

Our Therapists Share: 7 Signs Your Teen May Be Struggling with Anxiety

More and more teens are experiencing anxiety, and the symptoms of anxiety can reveal themselves in many different ways. With the fast-paced culture and lifestyle teens live in today, fears, overstimulation, and social situations blossom into full blown anxiety. There are ways to see signs of these symptoms and help to lessen or even stop the discomforts of anxious feelings and thoughts.

Here are some common indicators that your teen may be struggling with anxiety:

Appetite changes

Some teens experience a loss of appetite and skip a meal (or even 2 or 3) when feeling extremely anxious. Others may have a significant increase in appetite.

Trouble Concentrating

The inability to complete tasks and forgetfulness falls under the umbrella of anxiety symptoms. This can also appear as task avoidance, overstimulation, overwhelm, and discouragement. Some teens may be jittery, aloof, and confused- all of these characteristics indicate anxiety may be present.

Connected to devices

Notice your teen constantly scrolling on their social media apps? Scrolling, texting, and even just the instant gratification of picking up a cell phone device can serve as a distraction from anxiety triggers, but in turn can increase them two-fold. These devices are often used as a coping mechanism to distract from the discomfort of anxious thoughts and feelings.

Withdrawal

Can’t get your teen to come out of their room when their home? Is it a battle trying to get them to eat at the dinner table, attend family functions, or even engage in conversation? Withdrawing from social interactions is a key indicator that your teen may be feeling anxious. Nervousness, shyness, visible discomfort- all contribute to a social withdrawal.

Physical Symptoms and/or Anxiety attacks

Anxiety can show many physical symptoms, including:

-Nausea &/or vomiting

-Sweating

-Shaking

-Fainting

-Stuttering

-Rapid breathing

-Racing heartbeat

Difficulty Sleeping

Restlessness and insomnia are often indicators of anxiety. When the mind is not focusing on other things or being distracted, it can revisit thoughts or feelings that are uncomfortable or anxiety provoking. This often happens during bedtime when distractions are decreased in comparison to during the day. There is less stimulation and more sitting with the self. Some teens will stay up late on social media or playing video games to distract from these thoughts and feelings, then fall asleep out of pure exhaustion involuntarily.

Academic Decline

Grades starting to slip? Anxiety may be behind it. The pressure of performing academically effects countless teens, where other teens may be distracted with other anxious thoughts that schoolwork is sent to the back burner. Check in with your teen to see how you can support them with their schooling.

Is your teen experiencing anxiety? Do they need extra support in navigating their symptoms? We offer teen counseling and rolling groups for teens that focus on many areas of life during the teenage years. Wanting to deepen the connection between you and your teen?

We also offer family therapy. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or call us at 813.321.8280 for more info.

Check out our upcoming teen social skills group starting this summer here: https://www.serenemindpsych.com/teen-social-skills-group

Understanding Adolescent Identity Development: A Guide for Parents to Help Their Teens

Hi parents! Today we wanted to write some tips to help you guide your teen through identity development! When your children are growing up, they can go through many stages of development, including changes in appearance, interests, and identity. What this means is that as our children grow into teenagers, they start the natural process of exploring themselves and asking questions about who they are, where they belong, and how to fit into the world around them.

This can be a confusing process for both parents and teens alike, so to help you better understand the evolution of teenage identity development, our Tampa-based team of therapists has put together this helpful guide to provide insight and guidance on how to foster healthy growth during this important stage in your teen's life.

In this post, we'll provide an overview of the phases of adolescent identity development and even explore ways social media can impact it. We'll also offer some tips for parents on how to encourage their teens to explore their identities in healthy and sustainable ways. Our journey begins below; let's explore!

Phases of Identity Development for Growing Teens - And How to Help

According to notable psychologist James Marcia, there are four identity statuses or phases of identity development, and here's how they may relate to your teen. 

These may include:

• Identity Diffusion:

  In this phase, a teen has not yet committed to any particular identity and is not actively seeking one out. They may feel lost or confused about who they are and what they want to do with their lives.

How can I help with this? To help your teen in this phase, provide them with opportunities to explore their interests and values while making sure they know you’re there to support them.

• Identity Foreclosure:

  In this phase, a teen has committed to an identity without exploring other options. They may have adopted the beliefs and values of their parents or peers without questioning them or considering alternative viewpoints.

How can I help with this? To help your teen in this phase, ask open-ended questions about their identity and encourage them to explore different points of view. Make sure they know it’s okay to be curious and ask hard questions about life.

• Identity Moratorium:

  In this phase, a teen is actively exploring different identities and trying out different roles and activities. They may experiment with different clothing styles, hobbies, and friend groups to find out what feels most authentic to them.

How can I help with this? In this phase, it’s important to provide your teen with a safe space to explore without judgment. Make sure they know that you love them no matter what and are available as a sounding board if needed.

• Identity Achievement:

  In this final phase, a teen has successfully developed a strong sense of identity based on their own values, beliefs, and experiences. They have explored different options and made thoughtful decisions about who they are and what they want to do with their life.

How can I help with this? In this phase, it’s important to celebrate your teen’s achievements and provide them with resources for pursuing their goals. By letting them take ownership of their identity in healthy ways, we will give them the confidence to keep growing in a positive direction.

This may seem clinical, and this advice is by no means meant to replace the support of a licensed therapist. If, at any point, this feels overwhelming, consider reaching out to our team for support. Remember, our Tampa-based therapy team is always here to support you through this process.

Impact of Social Media on Identity Development

Now let's briefly touch on social media. While social media can be a valuable tool for connecting with others and expressing oneself, it can also have negative effects on adolescent identity development.

Studies have shown that excessive social media use can lead to low self-esteem, poor body image, and anxiety. Teens may also feel pressure to conform to certain standards or expectations set by social media influencers or peer groups.

So to help with this, encourage your teen to take breaks from social media and focus on real-world activities such as sports, music, or art. By doing this, you're encouraging your teen to explore their identity in the real world in healthy ways, which we believe will have long-term positive impacts on their lives. To read more about this, check out our previous blog on 5 Ways to Help Your Teen Overcome Isolation in the Age of Social Media. 

Tips for Encouraging Healthy Identity Development - Outlining the above in an easy-to-digest format

With the above information noted, we want to make it clear that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. As a parent, there are several things you can do to support your teen's identity development, so to elaborate on this, here are the tips again in an easy-to-digest format. Read below and see if any of these resonate with you:

• Encourage exploration:

  Encourage your teen to try new things and explore different interests and hobbies. This can help them develop a better understanding of what they enjoy and what they're good at.

• Foster open communication:

  Be open and available to talk about any questions or concerns your teen may have about their identity. Create a safe and non-judgmental environment where they can share their thoughts and feelings.

• Limit social media use:

  Set boundaries around social media use and encourage your teen to take breaks from their devices. This can help them develop a healthier relationship with social media and prevent negative effects on their self-esteem and body image.

• Seek professional help if needed:

  If your teen is struggling with their identity development or experiencing mental health challenges, consider seeking the help of a mental health professional. Therapy can provide a safe and supportive space for teens to work through their emotions and develop a greater sense of self early on.

Conclusion

At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, we understand that your teen's identity development can be a complex and challenging time. That's why we're excited to announce our upcoming teen social skills group starting in June. In this group, we will help your teen connect with other teens in a healthy and safe setting. To learn more, check out more information here.

Lastly, if you're interested in understanding more about how we can support your teen on this journey, please don't hesitate to reach out to us at Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations.

Remember, your child's teenage years are a time of growth and exploration. By providing a supportive and nurturing environment, we can help our teens navigate this important stage of life with confidence and grace.

The Benefits of Social Skills for Kids + Teens

As social creatures, we thrive from connecting with others and learning from each other. In today’s day and age that is chock full of digital communications and content, we are slowly moving away from the social connection that keeps us grounded and healthy. We have carried on coping mechanisms post-pandemic, such as working from home, exercising from home, video chatting our friends instead of meeting with them in person. Online dating, social media, even school can be completed through a tiny computer screen. Kids today have grown up with these technologies, not needing to be put in social situations and environments children were once in. Even with our ever-changing world, social skills are crucial to creating a happy, confident, and competent lifestyle.

How can I help my child improve their social skills?

Registering your child for a social skills group is a fantastic way to connect them to others their age, engage them in an in-person activity, and get their social skills put to action.

Learn to connect with peers

In a social skills education group, kids & teens will have access to hands-on experience and exercises to aid them in finding ways to connect with their peers. These educational and informative groups teach kids and teens about empathy and sympathy and how to differentiate the two. Learning to embody empathy and sympathy will help to ignite and maintain relationships for your child. In learning in groups such as age- targeted social skills group, your child will inherently connect with other members of the group by shared goals, communal vulnerability, and radical authenticity. These are lifelong stills that will benefit them as they continue their paths in life.

Identify social cues

Reading a room, understanding facial expressions, and decoding tone are key skills in successful relationships; whether they be personal, professional, or even strangers you meet in your day-to-day activities and errands. A social skills education group will teach your child about these imperative skills and techniques to help them feel confident in these settings and situations.

Conversational skills

Being able to start and carry a conversation with peers, family, and people of the workplace is paramount in leading a life that is socially connected. Conversation skills are not only important for in-person interactions, but also digital communications. Social skills groups can teach your child how to initiate conversations, approach others, and continue conversations- along with skills and techniques to avoid awkward silences or disconnected comments.

Self-Confidence

When mastering foundational components of social skills, kids and teens will build their confidence with each session. These groups give kids opportunities to learn on the spot, roll play, and practice with other members of the group.

Is your child or teen needing a boost in their confidence skills? Would a social skills group help them bolster their social skills? We offer children and teen counseling and rolling groups that focus on many areas of life during the childhood years. Wanting to deepen the connection between you and your child? We also offer family therapy. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or call us at 813.321.8280 for more info. Check out our upcoming teen social skills group starting this summer here: https://www.serenemindpsych.com/teen-social-skills-group

How + Why to Prioritize Your Self Care

In a culture and society that is all about the hustle and bustle, self-care often takes a backseat to things we find ”productive” like work, exercise, and chores around the house. What is important to learn is that self-care is productive, and very important for our health and wellbeing. Self-care helps us give our minds a break and to relax.

Unplugging from the constant stimulation of texts, busy work schedules, to-do lists and helps us feel more into our parasympathetic nervous system and release from the on-edge feelings of always being connected.

Taking the time for self-care will actually improve your productivity- helping you feel energized and refreshed.

• Eat Well

• With our fast-paced lifestyle, it is easy to swing by a drive-thru fast-food restaurant or pick up a grab-n-go meal from your local grocery store. Grant yourself just 30 minutes each week to create a meal plan for yourself. Meal prepping is helpful to create an easy and quick meal that can be stored in the fridge and heated up in minutes. By taking a small amount of time during the week to prep and plan meals, you are saving more time (and money!) in the long run- not to mention fueling yourself with higher quality ingredients and important nutrients that fast food and frozen/prepackaged meals can’t provide.

• Take a Break from Social Media

• Find yourself constantly scrolling? This is a hint that you may be overstimulated or bored. Let yourself rest by unplugging, even if it is just for an hour. Constantly staying connected keeps our brains on overdrive, taking away from the present moment.

• Maintain your Sleep Schedule

• Up late to meet that deadline? Staying up to cram for an exam? Indulging in a Netflix marathon until 2am? When these habits pile up, it starts to take a toll on your physical, and even mental health. Sleep is the body’s way of regenerating, and it should be treated as a non- negotiable self-care routine. Create a schedule that works best for you and try to stick with it. Go to bed around the same time each night so your body creates a natural rhythm. Waking up feeling rested and refreshed will help you feel even more productive in your day-to-day tasks and activates.

• Social Time

• Connect with you friends (in person!) Need we say more? Social time is so important for our health and wellbeing. Feeling connected and that we belong is crucial to our sense of self-esteem and emotional health. Call up a friend or family member and make plans, even if it is just for a quick coffee meet-up. Even short interactions can help foster and nourish the foundation of our relationships and help us feel supported and secure.

• Get Bored; Embrace Leisure

• It is easy to pick up your phone and scroll when you are feeling bored or uneasy. When you’re feeling bored, let the creativity take over. Pick up the paintbrushes and create something new! Or maybe grab your notebook and start those journaling prompts you’ve been piling up. Sign up for that last minute cycle class.

• When you give yourself space to be bored and have free time, you’ll start to remember the things you enjoy and want to engage in more often. Sometimes the spur of the moment leisure activities can spark even more creativity and inspiration in other areas of your life!

Looking for a therapist or life coach to help you on your self-care journey? We are here to help. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists can aid you in your healing journey.

Relationship Therapists Share: What are the Signs of a Codependent Relationship?

Codependent relationships are more common than we realize. These relationships are not only present in romantic partners; but can also be a dysfunctional dynamic in friendships, parent/child relationships, and even work relationships.

Codependent behaviors generally stem from social childhood or your teen years. Some factors that can contribute to these behaviors are:

- Experiencing abuse

- Having a parent or family member who suffers from an addiction, illness, or other health impairment

- Growing up with a controlling parent or caregiver

- Experiencing abandonment

- Experiencing divorce

- Being bullied as a child

In a codependent relationship, there is a person who is a caretaker and a person who takes advantage of the caretaking behaviors. Both individuals in the relationship are dependent on the behaviors of the other, feeling like they need the other person in their lives to function.

There is a need to be needed for the caretaker, and a need to be taken care of from the other individual in the relationship. There are several indicators that you could possibly be in a codependent relationship.

Here are a few factors to help you determine if you are:

People Pleasing

Putting your needs aside to please your partner or other party in your relationship is a main sign of a codependent relationship. At first, these actions may seem like a loving gesture of compassion, but then start to spiral into an unhealthy habit. The caretaking individual in the relationship often values the opinions of others rather than listening to their own intuition or following their preferences.

They want to make others happy, in fear that others won’t love or even like them anymore if they push back or disagree. Often times, the caretaker does not like to make decisions without the approval and input of the other individual of their codependent relationship, or even others in their lives. People pleasing becomes a currency to be liked or loved by others- needing this affection from others, but especially the other person in the codependent relationship. This stems from the codependent relationship and can start to bleed into other relationships.

Lack of Boundaries

The concept of emotional (and sometimes physical) boundaries can be blurred in codependent relationships. For the caretaking individual, they may feel underappreciated by the other person; yet continue to please them and be mistreated. They may offer consistent unsolicited advice, enable inappropriate or unacceptable behavior, and sometimes even feel responsible for the other person’s actions.

For the individual who takes advantage of the caretaker, they may push the envelope in terms of boundaries. This person is typically aware of the unconditional love and support of the caretaker, so they often feel comfortable mistreating, taking advantage, and disregarding the feelings of the caretaker. Both people in the relationship can fall into a pattern of denial about their behaviors within the relationship.

Self Esteem Challenges

For the caretaking individual, their self-esteem, self-worth, and self- image usually revolves around the assurance, validation, and approval of the other party in the relationship. They lack inner trust and confidence in many cases. There is a great fear of being rejected, disliked, or viewed negatively. Sometimes these feelings evolve and creates a victim mentality. These individuals often do not like to be alone and feel comfort when in the company of others, especially the other half of the codependent relationship.

For the individual who takes advantage of the caretaker, they often have an inflated self- esteem and ego. They feel they are worthy of the consistent caregiving treatment and expect and accept nothing else.

Do you feel like you are in a codependent relationship? Are you looking to break free from the relationship patterns you have found yourself in? At Serene Mind, we are here to help. You can also email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists is a good fit for you!

Our Therapists Share 5 Ways to Help Your Teen Overcome Isolation in the Age of Social Media

In our previous blog, we discussed The Importance of Social Skills for Teens, but today we wanted to expand on how we can support our teens with social skills when it comes to online use. In today's digital age, where social media platforms like TikTok have become ubiquitous, it's not uncommon for teenagers to feel isolated despite being seemingly connected. 

As a parent or guardian, we understand how tough this can be because, as a parent, you play a crucial role in supporting your teen's emotional well-being and helping them navigate the challenges of social isolation. 

That’s why, in today's blog, we will discuss five practical ways to assist your teen in overcoming isolation and fostering meaningful connections in the digital era.

1. Encourage Offline Interactions

We know that social media platforms can offer a sense of connection, but they often fall short of providing genuine human interaction. That's why we suggest you encourage your teen to engage in offline activities and spend quality time with friends and family.

Encourage them to participate in hobbies, join clubs or sports teams, and engage in face-to-face conversations. By fostering offline connections, your teen can experience the richness of real-life interactions, build lasting friendships, and overcome the isolating effects of excessive screen time.

2. Facilitate Open Communication

Create a safe and non-judgmental environment at home that encourages open communication.

Don't be afraid to initiate conversations with your teen about their online experiences at the dinner table, including how they are using social media platforms like Instagram or Snapchat, among others. Make sure you discuss the positive and negative aspects and emphasize the importance of balance.

3. Teach Your Teen Digital Well-Being

We recommend helping your teen understand the impact of social media on mental health and self-esteem early on! Discuss the concept of digital well-being, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries, limiting screen time, and being mindful of the content they consume. Also, encourage your teen to follow accounts that promote positivity, self-acceptance, and mental well-being as well!

By teaching your teen healthy digital habits, you empower them to navigate social media responsibly and mitigate the negative effects of isolation.

4. Foster Empathy and Kindness

In a digital world where interactions can be impersonal, it's crucial to instill the values of empathy and kindness in your teen. Encourage them to show empathy towards their peers online and offline. Let them know about the dangers of Cyber-Bullying and make sure they know to alert adults when they recognize it happening. Also, remind them that everyone faces challenges and insecurities, and a kind comment or gesture can make a significant difference in someone's day. 

In the real world, don’t be afraid to encourage your teen to participate in volunteer work or community service; this can help promote a sense of belonging and connection beyond the virtual realm.

5. Cultivate Real-Life Social Skills

While online communication has its merits, it's essential for your teen to develop real-life social skills.

Help your teen build confidence in initiating conversations, try to educate them on the benefits of active listening, and help them with verbal and non-verbal communication skills. By honing these skills, your teen will feel more comfortable and connected in various social settings, reducing feelings of isolation.

Conclusion

Remember, every teen's journey is unique, and it's crucial to provide ongoing support and understanding. By implementing these five strategies, you can empower your teen to overcome isolation, build meaningful connections, and navigate the digital landscape with resilience and confidence.

If you feel that your teen could benefit from professional guidance in navigating social isolation, we invite you to reach out to us at Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations in the Tampa area. We have experienced counselors who specialize in teen counseling and can provide personalized strategies to support your teen's emotional well-being and help them build meaningful connections. 

Also, we have a teen social skills group launching this summer that can help your teen connect with new friends in a safe and supportive environment. Learn more here!

Don’t hesitate to contact us today and take the first step towards empowering your teen's journey.

Note: The content provided in this article is for informational purposes only and should not replace professional advice. If you or your teen are experiencing severe emotional distress or mental health concerns, please seek help from a qualified mental health professional.

Our Relationship Therapists Share How to Cope with Friendship Breakups

Friendship breakups can feel as heartbreaking and disappointing as romantic splits. Sometimes the paths of our lives start to move in different directions and our friendships evolve. The friendships we create can be for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. We connect with others based on common interests, opinions, and life circumstances.

The endings of these relationships can leave us feeling lost and confused. Friendships can end because of a specific event or issue, or sometimes they can slowly diminish without us even realizing it.

Here are some tips our therapists have put together to aid you in navigating a friendship breakup.

Why Do friendships end?

-Breaking of trust

-Physical or emotional distance

-Difference in views

-Misunderstandings or disagreements

- Unresolved power differential

- Abuse

How to Cope with friendship breakups:

1) Process the relationship dynamic

Give yourself the space and time to honor the relationship and grieve the loss of it going forward. Take the time to evaluate the lessons learned within the friendship and what good came out of the relationship.

These are some questions to sit on and ask yourself when processing the shifting of your friendship. Did the friendship teach you something? Did you subconsciously back out of the relationship, or put in more than the other party? What memories can you look back on and still be fond of? Where can you take accountability in challenges within the relationship? How can you grow and learn from this relationship dynamic so It does not develop in other friendships?

It may feel supportive to process the relationship dynamic with a trusted person like another friend, family member, or professional mental health counselor to help recognize any blind spots that you might be missing in your reflection.

2) Lean into self-care:

Like any breakup or loss in your life, friendship break ups can create feelings of grief, sadness, and even anger. Channel these feelings and energy into yourself care practices. Get out for a walk in nature, listen to your favorite music, treat yourself to your favorite meal. Being extra gentle with yourself when processing the ending of the friendship. It is okay to feel sad, angry, or maybe even resentful for a period of time. This is normal and natural.

When you feel ready, release the emotions that arise in healthy ways that feel safe and nourishing to you. Emotions are motivators and encouragers of movement-allow yourself to move and release the feelings and thoughts that come up that do not serve you.

3) Create space for new friendships:

Have you ever heard the saying, “when one door closes, another opens”? When you create the space for other friends or new friends, these connections have room to grow and blossom.

Dedicate your time and energy into relationships and friendships that feel nourishing during this time. When we put our thought and energy into relationships that have ended, are toxic, or are struggling, we often forget about the relationships that are supportive and healthy for us- and perhaps are even missing opportunities for potential friendships that could start to grow from even the smallest of interactions. If it feels resonate to you, try a new fitness class, neighborhood meet up, or social group- you never know what connections could be waiting for you unless you put forth effort and put yourself out there!

Just like relationships with family, colleagues, and even romantic relationships, break-ups do not have to last forever. Sometimes a “break” is necessary to move and shift within the relationship and taking time and space from a friendship can help heal some of the broken parts within the dynamic. Other times, a friendship breakup is the healthiest decision for all. All of these experiences help us grow as individuals and teaches us lessons on not only how to be a friend to others, but a friend to ourselves.

Are you struggling with a friendship breakup? We have several relationship therapists at Serene Mind who can help you process these transitions and explore these relationship dynamics. If you feel you need support, please feel free to reach out to us at hello@serenemindpysch.com, or call us at 813.321.8280. We are here to help you while you continue on your path!

Our Therapists Share 3 Ways Social Media Impacts Mental Health

In our modern day and age, social media has dominated communication in many different areas. Connecting with friends and family through messages, sharing pictures of your life, shopping, dating, and even networking to further your career can be done all from a tiny screen that you can tote in your pocket. There are thousands of apps that can fit virtually any need, and most have a social component within the app. Although there can be many positives with the rise of social media, there are also some attributes to these apps that can negatively impact mental and emotional health.

1. Instant Gratification

Getting an immediate reward, or instant gratification is a common product of regular social media use. Being able to speak to someone immediately, purchase goods, or even scrolling constantly being introduced to different stimuli can create a sense of power and control.

A chemical in the body called dopamine is released when we partake in instant gratification behaviors, and when participated in often, can change an individual’s behavior completely. Needing to be constantly stimulated (example: scrolling, checking texts or emails, etc.) releases dopamine and when this is done frequently, the body becomes overstimulated. This can create feelings of anxiety and overwhelm when instant gratification is unavailable to an individual who is used to it. This is also a way to disconnect and disassociate from needing to problem solve or wait for stimuli to present itself.

The more we become accustomed to the instant gratification, the more we seek this pleasurable activity. This can lead us down a spiral and ultimately lead to great disappointment.

2. The Comparison Game

Seeing others on social media posting their achievements, purchases, and even daily life can create a “comparison game” within. This game can turn into a rabbit hole of feelings and thoughts such as, “Why can’t I have those things?”, “They are so much more attractive than me”, “They must be rich to afford that”. These comparisons are hurtful, lead to expectations that are unattainable and unrealistic.

Most people post the best of their worlds on their social media platforms. When seeing the best parts of someone’s life through pictures or word on a screen, it is easy to forget that they are humans too- people that have challenges, difficulties, and vulnerabilities.

The Comparison Game can also lead to FOMO, or “Fear of Missing Out”, where individuals feel like they don’t fit in or belong with their peers. Constant exposure to these platforms can create feelings of shame, guilt, not feeling worthy, and even missing out on things they think they may deserve or wish they could have. It is important to keep in check the realities of each post and person posting.

3. Cyberbullying

Within the last 10 years the popularity of social media platforms has increased, and so has cyberbullying. Cyberbullying can have tremendous effects on a person’s self-image, self-esteem, and social skills.

Many individuals find it easier to argue, make fun of, and even harass others through a digital format rather than in real life, face-to- face interactions. When prolonged and unreported, cyberbullying can take an extreme toll on a person’s mental and emotional health, and even start to affect their physical health. It is hard to escape bullies on social media, they are constantly there and you may feel as if it is out of control.

The world of social media is a new territory for many of us. We have no way of knowing what further studies or future generations will be impacted by the decisions we make on social media today. It is a scary and unfamiliar world for ourselves, our kids and teens. Always remember that you have the power to control the amount you use, the platforms you access and how accessible you are in the realm of social media.

Are you feeling that you are experiencing negative thoughts or feelings due to social media use? We are here to help. Email us at hello@serenemindpsych.com or give us a call at 813.321.8280 to set up an intake appointment to see if one of our therapists can aid you in your healing journey.

The Importance of Social Skills for Teens: Overcoming Isolation and Building Connections

Parents, are you looking for ways to help your teen develop social skills? As our young ones grow older, they need to learn how to interact with other people in real life and not just behind computer screens. This means learning how to talk and get along with others at school, in after-school activities, and at home. Having strong social skills can help teens build relationships, communicate clearly, and feel more confident in their skin.

At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, we understand the importance of social skills for teens and offer a variety of programs and services to help support their growth. Let's dive into more details on why teens need to develop social skills from an early age and how we can support them through this delicate process. Are you curious to learn more? Let's get started!

Why are social skills important for teens?

Developing social skills is crucial for teenagers as they navigate their relationships with peers, family, and teachers. By developing strong social skills, they can effectively communicate their thoughts and feelings, manage conflicts, and establish and maintain meaningful relationships. Social skills are essential for success not only in academic settings but also in their future professional lives. These skills include collaboration, teamwork, and leadership, which are highly valued by employers.

Furthermore, according to a recent study by Brooking.edu this is also important because:

“During the teen years, our minds change in the way we remember, think, reason, focus attention, make decisions, and relate to others. From around age twelve to age twenty-four, there is a burst of growth and maturation taking place as never before in our lives. Understanding the nature of these changes can help us create a more positive and productive life journey.”

– Daniel Seigel, clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine

Also, in today's fast-paced digital world, social skills have become more critical than ever. The rise of social media and technology has transformed the way teens communicate and interact, making it even more crucial to develop face-to-face communication skills. Don't let your teen get lost behind their screens, let's discuss more ways we can help!

How Can Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations Help? - Teen Social Skills Group Launching Again This Summer

At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, we offer a variety of programs and services designed to support teens in developing social skills. Our team of experienced therapists works closely with teens to identify their specific needs and goals and create customized plans for their growth.

One of our most popular programs is our Teen Social Skills Group, which provides a safe and supportive environment for teens to practice social skills, build relationships, and learn new communication techniques in the Tampa area. Led by experienced therapists, our Teen Social Skills Group is dedicated to focusing on developing skills such as active listening, empathy, assertiveness, and conflict resolution.

In addition to our Social Skills Group, we offer individual therapy sessions that address specific social skill challenges, such as social anxiety or difficulty making friends. Our therapists use evidence-based techniques to help teens overcome these challenges and develop confidence in their social interactions.

Now enough about how we can support, let's get deeper into how you can support your teen as they develop their social skills.

How Can Parents Support Their Teen's Social Skill Development?

To assist your teen in enhancing their social skills, here are a few suggestions for parents:

• Encourage positive peer interactions – Encourage your teen to find friends that share similar interests or values and allow them to spend some time with them.

• Model positive social skills – Lead by example and show your teen how to interact positively with others.

• Create family conversations – Create a safe space for your teen to talk about their feelings and experiences with others around the dinner table.

• Praise good behavior – Let your teen know when they are demonstrating good social skills and provide positive reinforcement. If they make a new friend or effectively resolve a conflict with a classmate, make sure to recognize their accomplishments and affirm them.

• Set boundaries – Establish clear expectations for how your teen should and should not behave in social settings.

The Benefits of Developing Social Skills

To further elaborate, here are some more benefits of developing social skills that can have a profound impact on a teen's life, both now and in the future. Some of the benefits of building social skills include:

• Improved communication and conflict-resolution abilities

• Increased self-esteem and confidence

• Greater success in academics and careers

• More meaningful and fulfilling relationships

• Reduced stress and anxiety in social situations

At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, we believe that every teen has the potential to develop strong social skills and thrive in their relationships and social interactions. Our programs and services are designed to provide the support, guidance, and resources necessary to help teens achieve their full potential.

Conclusion

In today's fast-paced digital world, social skills are more important than ever for teens. 

At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, we’re here for you! Whether it's through our Teen Social Skills Group that will be launching this summer or our individual therapy sessions, our team of experienced therapists is committed to helping teens achieve their full potential.

If you're interested in learning more about our services, don't hesitate to reach out today! And remember, at Serene Mind Counseling, we're here to support you and your teen every step of the way.

ART Trauma Therapy: Ways It Can Benefit Those Who Have Experienced Trauma

Experiencing trauma can have a profound impact on an individual's life, leaving them feeling disconnected and detached from themselves and their surroundings. Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) is a type of therapy that can help individuals who have experienced trauma by reframing the trauma and helping them process the experience in a safe and nurturing environment.

At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, our team of compassionate therapists is dedicated to supporting individuals on their journey towards healing and growth. We even have an ART trauma therapist named Mrs. Nikki Tucker available to aid in your journey to recovery.

In this blog, we will discuss  ways in which ART trauma therapy can benefit individuals who have experienced trauma.

What is ART trauma therapy, and what are some ways it can help?

ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy) is a trauma therapy created in 2008 by Laney Rosenzweig Laney's familiarity with various treatment modalities like EMDR gave birth to this concept. ART is a powerful, fast, and effective technique for helping individuals overcome the lingering emotional pain and distress associated with traumatic experiences. With this therapeutic procedure, the client doesn’t even have to go into detail about what the trauma is to get the results they need. 

Whether it's a car accident, combat-related trauma, sexual or physical abuse, or any other type of traumatic event, the effects of trauma can be long-lasting and debilitating, often leading to depression, anxiety, and other psychological disorders.

The ultimate goal of ART trauma therapy is to help individuals process and reprocess negative emotions and memories associated with their traumatic experiences in a way that allows them to move forward and experience emotional relief. This is achieved through a combination of techniques that are designed to engage the brain's natural healing processes and promote emotional and psychological recovery.

What is the difference between ART Therapy and EMDR?

While both ART therapy and EMDR therapy are forms of therapy that may alleviate trauma, there are some key differences between them. ART therapy utilizes the power of the imagination, imagery, and metaphors to help individuals reprocess traumatic memories and experiences, as well as eye movements similar to those that happen when in a state of dreaming. EMDR therapy uses bilateral stimulation (such as eye movements, tapping, or sounds) to activate the brain's healing processes. 

Both of these trauma-focused therapies can be used to help individuals heal from psychological and emotional trauma. However, since ART therapy involves imaginative work and EMDR therapy often relies on body movements or sounds for activation, there are different approaches. While both modalities can be effective, ART therapy goes beyond desensitization and leans more toward "positization," as Laney describes in this video.

Additionally, ART therapy typically involves fewer sessions than EMDR therapy, with some individuals experiencing significant relief after just a few sessions. Both forms of therapy have been shown to be effective in treating trauma, and the choice between them ultimately depends on your unique needs and preferences, as well as the therapist's assessment of which approach may be most effective.

If you're struggling with the lingering effects of trauma, ART trauma therapy may be a powerful and effective tool for helping you overcome these challenges and move forward toward a brighter, more fulfilling future. With the help of a trained and compassionate therapist, you can learn to process and reprocess your traumatic experiences in a way that promotes emotional and psychological healing, resilience, and growth.

ART Therapy for Healing Trauma: Exploring the Evidence

ART therapy has been increasingly recognized as an effective tool for helping people who have experienced trauma.

But don't just take our word for it; we recommend that you read further to gain more understanding and determine if ART therapy is suitable for you. Here are some resources to support our claims and guide you on your journey.

1. [Psych Central] reports that ART therapy uses eye movements to help patients process traumatic memories in a safe and effective way. By reprocessing the traumatic memory, patients can alleviate the emotional distress associated with the event.

2. [Positive Psychology] highlights a manual for clinicians, Imagery Rescripting: Theory and Practice by Remco van der Wijngaart, that explains how imagery rescripting can help with trauma, personality disorders, and other issues. This technique is a fundamental component of ART therapy.

3. [Good Therapy] explains that ART therapy incorporates elements of several treatment modalities, including EMDR, Gestalt, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and brief psychodynamic therapy (BPP). ART therapy's multidisciplinary approach combines techniques from various therapeutic modalities to create a comprehensive treatment approach for trauma.

In Conclusion

We are committed to supporting individuals who have experienced trauma. Our team of compassionate therapists is here to guide you on your journey toward healing and growth. Together, we can work towards a brighter future filled with hope and empowerment.

If you have experienced trauma, it's important to know that you're not alone. ART therapy can be a powerful tool in your healing journey. At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, our Tampa-based team is here to support you every step of the way. If the above resonates with you, don't hesitate to reach out to us today to start your journey toward a brighter, more hopeful tomorrow.