Helpful Tips for Rebuilding Trust in Relationships: How to Overcome Trust Issues with Couples Counseling

If your partner were to leave for a day without communicating where they went, how would that make you feel? Would you not even consider it, would you be concerned, or would you immediately call them to find out where they are? Regardless of how you navigate the situation, these are all trust-related emotions, and today we want to talk about how to navigate the process of rebuilding trust in relationships.

Trust is an essential ingredient for any flourishing relationship.

Unfortunately, that trust can be damaged for a variety of reasons, such as betrayal, past hurt, and deception. The process of rebuilding shattered trust is difficult but not impossible; all that is required is a commitment from both parties involved.

Here are some helpful tips from the Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations team for rebuilding trust and easing back into a healthy relationship:

1. Seek Professional Help:

   Couples counseling can provide a safe and supportive environment for couples to address trust issues. A trained therapist can help couples identify the underlying issues that led to the breakdown in trust and provide tools and strategies for rebuilding it. Couples counseling can help partners discover creative solutions to their problems, create healthy boundaries, and strengthen communication overall. Ultimately, it’s up to you and your partner to decide when to take this important first step. 

2. Take Responsibility:

   Rebuilding trust requires both partners to take responsibility for their actions. The partner who has broken trust needs to take ownership of their behavior and express genuine remorse. The other partner needs to be willing to forgive and move forward, if possible, however, give yourself grace in this as this may take a bit of time depending on the situation. This is only possible if both partners feel safe together and commit to rebuilding trust and creating a healthy relationship in the first place.

3. Be Patient:

   We touched on this briefly but rebuilding trust takes time and patience. It's important to be realistic and understand that trust won't be restored overnight. To say it's a process is a HUGE understatement. Couples who really want to make things work should be willing to take the time needed to rebuild trust and work through any issues that may arise.

4. Communicate Effectively:

   Which leads to our last point, communication is key! Partners need to be open and honest with each other about their thoughts, feelings, and concerns. It's important to listen actively and avoid being defensive or judgmental. When conflict arises try your best to make an effort to communicate regularly and check in with each other frequently to ensure you're on the same page. For instance, if you or your partner are dealing with feelings of betrayal after infidelity in a relationship, try setting aside time to talk about the situation, without interruptions or distractions. Use "I" statements to express feelings and avoid blaming or accusing language. For example, the hurt partner may say, "I feel hurt and betrayed by what happened" instead of "You cheated on me and broke my trust." This might feel difficult at first, but over time it will help rebuild the trust that was originally lost.

Rebuilding trust in a relationship can be challenging, and we know your issues and questions about trust will not be resolved just by reading this, but with the help of a trained therapist and a commitment to rebuilding trust, it's very possible for couples to create a healthy and fulfilling relationship together again. 

If you are struggling with trust issues, consider seeking professional help from our team atSerene Mind Counseling and Evaluations. We can give you the help and direction you need to rebuild your relationship in a gentle way. If you live in the Tampa area and are looking for couples counseling, don’t hesitate to contact us. We look forward to hearing from you!