5 Easy Self Care Strategies for Teens

At Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, we understand that life can be very challenging for teenagers. If you’re reading this as a teen, it’s because maybe you stumbled upon it while you were strolling the internet, or someone you love shared it with you in mind. First and foremost, thank you for reading! As a teen, we know you probably have a lot going on. You might have to balance schoolwork, extracurricular activities, family commitments, and maybe even a part-time job. With all that, we get how easy it is to neglect your own health! However, taking care of yourself is essential to your emotional and physical well-being!

That’s why our Tampa-based team at Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations has put together five simple methods of self-care that you can start using immediately to feel better. While reading this, please note that no one blog post can replace the care of a licensed professional, but with these tips, we hope we can provide some simple inspiration to help you on your journey of becoming your best teenage self. 

Sleep is important!

I know how hard this can be, especially since school starts kind of early and you may be tempted to be on Tik Tok all night. Believe it or not, we get it, but getting enough sleep is one of the most important self-care strategies. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, the recommended amount of sleep for a teen is between 8 and 10 hours per night. Sleep deprivation has been linked to irritability, an inability to focus, and even depression. So think about that the next time you want to stay up to watch your favorite Netflix show.

We're saying this because we want to encourage you! Instead of surfing the web before bed, read a book or listen to soothing music to help you ease into restful sleep. Not only will this improve your mood, but it will also help you be more cognizant the next day and help you with all aspects of school, including hanging out with friends.

Exercise for Self-Care

The second strategy is to exercise on a regular basis. Now, by exercise, we don’t mean try to make yourself look like a Kardashian. We mean exercise to alleviate stress, improve your mood, and boost your self-esteem. You don't have to spend hours at your school's gym to reap the benefits of exercise. But try to find something that you take pleasure in doing, like jogging, dancing, or participating in a sport you like. Every day, you should strive to complete at least half an hour of moderate exercise. It might sound difficult, but take it one day at a time and take note of how much better you feel after you find a physical activity you enjoy.

Practice Mindfulness

We get it; it sounds a little...whoo whoo, but practicing mindfulness is the third best strategy to help you become your best teenage self. But what exactly is mindfulness? It is basically a practice that involves being in the present moment and focusing on one's thoughts and emotions without judgment. One way to practice mindfulness is through meditation. This means taking a few minutes to put your phone down, sit quietly, and focus on your breathing. Paying attention to your senses, such as the taste of your food or the feel of the sun on your skin, is another way to practice mindfulness. This will help you become more present, not only in school but in life. 

Make and maintain meaningful connections

Having meaningful relationships with other people is critical to maintaining good mental health. Your mood can be improved and your stress level lowered simply by hanging out with your favorite crew or family members who feel safe. If you know who those people are  in your life, make an effort to spend time with them outside of school or at lunch, whether it's by going for a walk together after school or having a movie night with your family. If you don’t know who you can connect with yet, that’s okay! Try meeting new people and making new friends by signing up to be a member of a group or organization that shares your interests and passions.

Eat Healthy

The fifth and final strategy is eating a healthy diet. As a teen, it can be tempting to get McDonald's, and there's no shame in doing so every once in a while, but eating a healthy diet is crucial for your physical and mental health. Trust us when we say there’s a wide variety of fruits, vegetables, grains that are whole, and lean sources of protein that taste better than your favorite junk foods and should be included in your diet. If you feel like you don’t have access to healthy foods in your community, talk to your parents or leaders to see how to change that. There are resources available to you to be your best even if it doesn’t seem like it, and if you feel like you’re not getting the nutrition you need, don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself.

If you felt overwhelmed at any point while reading this, it’s ok! Take a deep breath and remember you’re still young, and it’s ok to make mistakes. But keep in mind that practicing good self-care is necessary for both your mental and physical health! If you want to feel more in control of your emotions and have more energy throughout the day, try incorporating these five simple methods of self-care into your regular routine. If you need more help, don’t be afraid to reach out to your parents or leadership for assistance, and as long as you keep up with your school work and stay safe, always keep in mind that taking care of yourself is not an act of selfishness but rather an essential component of becoming your best self. Lastly, remember that at Serene Mind Counseling and Evaluations, we’re rooting for you!

5 Ways to Help Your Teen Manage Anger

Anger is an emotion that everyone experiences. Anger does have a bad reputation. People know anger can sweep away logic and escalate quickly. Learning how to manage your anger effectively is essential for healthy relationships and your well-being.

As a teenager, you may face many stressors that can trigger your anger, such as school pressures, conflicts with friends or family members, and changes with your mind and body. However, learning how to manage your anger in healthy ways is crucial for your health and relationships.

Here are five ways to help you manage your anger from our team of counselors at Serene Mind Counseling:

1. Identify Your Triggers:

   Acknowledging the circumstances and people that provoke your anger is the first step in mastering it. This could be anything from being criticized by a teacher to feeling left out by a friend. Once you identify your triggers, you can prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for them.

2. Take Deep Breaths:

   It sounds cliche, but it really can work to stop your body from spiraling into "fight or flight" response. When you feel angry, take deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth, your exhale should be longer than your inhale. Focus on slowing down your breathing and relaxing your muscles. This technique will help calm down your nervous system and reduce tension.

3. Use "I Statements:" 

   Rather than lashing out or bottling up your feelings, try expressing yourself by using "I statements" instead of blaming others. For example, instead of saying "You always make me mad," say "I feel upset when you interrupt me." When you use "I statements," you take responsibility for your emotions and communicate them clearly to the other person. This approach promotes healthy communication and reduces the likelihood of conflict or misunderstandings.

4. Connect with Your Senses:

   Connecting with the immediate world around you can help you become grounded. This involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment or distraction. You can practice mindfulness by focusing on your senses (what do you see, hear, or smell) or doing simple activities like coloring or walking outside and taking in the fresh air.

5. Seek Support:

   It is not easy to reach out and ask for help. This makes us feel vulnerable or weak. The reality is asking for help is BRAVE and can help you be STRONG. If you find it hard to manage your anger alone, don't hesitate to reach out for help from trusted adults like parents, healthy friends, teachers, or counselors who can provide guidance and resources.

Why does managing my anger even matter?

Uncontrolled anger can have negative consequences on various aspects of life such as school performance, relationships with loved ones, and even physical health problems like high blood pressure! By learning how to manage anger effectively at an early age we are setting ourselves up for success both personally and professionally.

If you feel that your teen could benefit from more anger awareness tips, click here to learn more about our anger awareness teen group.

You are doing amazing, keep making an effort! 

Therapists Share 13 Reasons How to Prevent Teen Suicide

The controversial show "13 Reasons Why" has everyone talking about teens and suicide. The series portrays a high school teen, Hannah, who takes her own life after experiencing a downfall of devastating events with 13 individuals. Hannah tells her story from her point of view, about all the people that could have saved her and moments that were most significant. The show demonstrates the importance of empathy, understanding, communication and listening. Had the events in Hannah's life been different, had someone reached out to her, told her how much she was loved and simply listened, she may still be alive.

Although, many clinicians would agree that teens who watch this show may try to mimic Hannah's tragic end; many would also agree that this show may help teens talk about suicide and hopefully adults can learn to listen. The reality is the more we talk about suicide the less it happens.  

Here are just some, 13 to be exact, ways we can try to prevent teen suicide:

1. Connect and reach out to your teen  

2. Trust that they do want your help

3. Encourage them to believe in themselves 

4. Use positive language when speaking to each other 

5. Spend time together, bond over activities you both enjoy 

6. Do not use physical, emotional or mental violence 

7. Be attentive to your teens emotions

8. Learn not to minimize how they feel 

9. Get to know their friends 

10. Learn if they are being bullied at school 

11. Be a positive role model and model behavior that you would expect from them 

12. Communicate and talk about why suicide is not a way out 

13. Listen to how your teen feels and hear what they need 

We can spend time criticizing a show about teen suicide, or we can learn to use it as a tool to teach teens that suicide is not a solution. It is about time we learn to listen and prevent senseless tragedies. Suicide is never the answer.