Your Healing Journey is Not Linear - A Therapy Perspective
/Whether you have experienced mental or physical pain, healing takes time. When we scrape our knee the mark doesn’t go away over night. It has to heal and there is a process involved. When we are hurt emotionally how do we heal from that pain?
It is also a process. There are things we can do to help the process move along but it is important to know that everyone is moving at different paces.
Here are some ways to help you grow at your own pace:
Recognize that no one is perfect:
The idea that perfection exists can stop us from making progress. We forget that we can be novice, make mistakes and learn.
Getting better, can make us feel all over the place:
Self growth takes us wanting to sometimes feel a little worse, just before making the most progress and actually getting better. That is okay, lean into the discomfort and explore this area. You may find some answers you did not even know you had.
There is no right way to heal:
Some may fall backwards and some may accelerate; healing is not the same for everyone. When we grieve for example; some people heal rather quickly and are able to get on with things for the moment but after a few months those people may start to feel more pain than they did initially. Some people may grieve for years. There are no step-by-step- lists for healing as people heal in different ways.
Be kind to yourself and having compassion for your own journey:
Do what makes you feel comfortable and happy. If you are healing slowly, be comfortable with that and work from where you are. No one is feeling your personal pain but you and therefore no one has experience in how long it “should” take.
Talking with a professional can help you through a painful time or talk through past painful experiences. Everyone has a different journey and that is a beautiful thing. Healing takes time.
