4 Ways to Reduce Your Back to School Stress - From Our Therapists

School coming to a start can add pressure for everyone. It is important to take the time to focus on ways to make the transition as smooth as possible. Having a plan on how to tackle the new school year is important.

Here are 4 ways you can make sure this school year is smooth.

1. Create a routine - Did you know that predictability sends soothing messages to the brains of those that struggle with stress? Setting up a routine such as a regular bedtime, a daily gym session, or even a music playlist or audiobook that you listen to on the drive to/from school can help you solidify a routine. Something that will allow your brain to not be so stressed throughout the day.

2. Communication is key - When it comes to children, if you as a parent have changes in plans you should communicate that to your child as soon as possible. A child can become very stressed and anxious if they are unsure of how they’re getting home or where they are going. If they are caught up in the mix of complicated changes, it ends up being very difficult to focus on their learning.

3. Connect through questions - Go ahead and try connecting with your child through questions such as how their day went, who they sat next to at lunch, if anything funny or exciting happened throughout the day. You can even chime in with your own experiences when you were going to school and what caused you a lot of stress and anxiety. With that, you can end up asking them if there is anything that may be causing them a bit of anxiety with school.

4. Listen - Our natural tendency when we hear that someone is stressed is to try and fix it. However, when we go ahead and try to do that, we end up invalidating the other person's feelings and in turn not really helping them at all. Instead of trying to fix whatever it is that has them stressed. Try asking questions such as “How can I support you right now” or “Would you like to talk about what’s currently bothering you?” Once you listen to them, if you have a thought that you feel may be helpful, go ahead and ask them if it’s okay for you to share it.

As we all transition back to school, remember to take care of yourself too. The best support a child can have is an adult who is taking care of their own well being and mental health too!

Back to School Ready - From Our Therapists

Having great organizational skills is the key to success! This is the key to having a great school year as well. No one is born being organized, we can all brush up on our skills. The first thing you have to remember is to be patient with yourself while you learn a new routine. Learning takes practice and the more you practice, the easier it will become.

Here are a few tips to get your children (or yourself) ready for the new school year:

1. Use checklists - Using checklists to post assignments, chores or even reminders of what materials your children might need for class is a good habit to have. Purchase a small planner or notebook for your child and dedicate it specifically to listing homework assignments. Once they are done with homework assignments, projects or any other tasks have them cross them off. This list will give them a sense of accomplishment!

2. Break down tasks - By making tasks smaller, we make them more manageable. This makes it easier to feel accomplished, thus boosting our confidence. Use this boost to help you complete the entire project. Baby steps need to be celebrated to increase your motivation to complete your school work.

3. Organize homework assignments - Encourage your child to do their homework assignments in the order that they should be completed. A good way to structure this is by starting with the shortest or “easiest” assignment first and then moving to the longest assignment. Any bigger assignments or projects that aren’t due right away can be worked on in smaller chunks than typical homework assignments.

4. Designate a study space - Having a designated workspace and/or study space allows for consistency. Your child should ultimately have a designated work space for studying and doing homework that is quiet and away from most distractions. Ultimately, having their school supplies and materials nearby would also be best. It would also help for them to have designated study times that aren’t too long.

5. Take breaks - Having time to eat, relax and play are also important in helping us finish assignments. Taking a mental time out from learning and doing things helps us recharge. This is helpful in helping us complete an assignment, think of it as a reward for the work you have been completing.

Going back to school is never easy. Sure you may have some excitement but it is usually combined with worry. By being more organized and prepared you can make some of that worry go away. Have a great first day and month of school!

Back to School Burn Out - A Therapist’s Perspective

Back to school burnout is REAL. As a graduate student nearing the end of my degree, my biggest challenge is overcoming the idea that I just “took a bunch of time to rest” over the summer. I am supposed to feel fully charged, refreshed, and ready to go, right? 

Well, about 3 weeks into the “go mode” I now realize I am pushing myself too hard and I am starting to feel the first signs of burnout: fatigue, forgetfulness, loss of appetite, anxiety symptoms. 

It is okay and there are ways we can manage going back to school together. Here are some tips I have come up with over the years to avoid this back to school burnout:

1. Set reasonable weekly/daily goals.

   I am a week-to-week person so I typically like to begin on Monday with a list of things I would like to accomplish throughout the week, with the most important things first. I will then separate my list into days: when will I have the time to complete each task as it fits in with my week. The goal here is to provide yourself with some wiggle room. If you can only complete one task, that is okay- just make sure it is the most important one. You will get to the rest as soon as you can. 

2. Take breaks!

   They did not invent the wheel in one day! Sometimes long task lists take time and it is okay to give yourself time. Taking breaks for some of us can be difficult. Maybe we don’t know where to fit them in and we work straight through lunch or dinner. Others may take breaks that are so long they cannot get back into being productive. A great tool for this is to set timers. At the beginning of the day, as you assess your schedule, identify at least 2 places where you could stop for 10 minutes and eat a snack or go for a walk. Set those alarms in your phone and try your best to carve out time when they go off. 

3. Choose healthy relationships.

   A teen shared with me the other day, “you are the sum of your 5 closest friends.” The people that you surround yourself with can make you feel much better or much worse about your current situation. If your peers are often consumed with drama and negative attitudes, it is likely that they will begin to inadvertently bring you down with them. Finding people who maintain positive and productive relationships and attitudes will benefit you in reaching your goals and better managing your time! 

These tips may not rid you of all burn out, fatigue and anxiety but they can help to manage your symptoms. Knowing that we all have episodes of burn out can help us feel some level of comfort and relieve. You are not alone, and your struggles are real. Remember to make yourself a priority and focus on your needs too.